Support & Resources
If something felt unsafe, coercive, or not consensual, you do not need to work through it with the person involved. You can stop, get somewhere safer, and seek independent support. You don't owe anyone a conversation or explanation.
Immediate danger or medical emergency
In Germany and elsewhere in the EU, call 112 for an emergency. In Germany, call 110 for police. Elsewhere, contact local emergency services. Do not rely on this app for emergency response.
If consent was violated
Your immediate safety comes first. You might get somewhere safer, contact someone you trust, or seek specialist sexual-violence support. You don't need to involve the person concerned.
Medical care and preserving evidence are choices; local options vary. It's okay to seek confidential advice before deciding what to do. Reporting is not something you owe anyone.
If you're overwhelmed or struggling after play
Notice what's around you and what would feel more manageable now: distance or company, quiet, water, food, warmth or rest. None of these has to fix how you feel. You can ask a trusted person or qualified professional for support. If there is immediate risk, contact emergency services.
Finding appropriate help
Look for local sexual-assault support organisations, kink-aware mental health professionals, LGBTQIA+ community support, medical care or local crisis lines. You can ask about confidentiality, cost, and whether their support fits your situation before sharing details.
In Germany, TelefonSeelsorge offers confidential emotional support at 0800 111 0 111, 0800 111 0 222 or 116 123. For urgent medical advice outside practice hours, when it isn't an emergency, call 116 117. These numbers are Germany-specific.
What to do next
You can stop this conversation, take space, and contact someone you trust. One small next step is enough. Later choices can wait until you have the support and information you want. You don't need to explain your decision to the other person.
This information is not a substitute for urgent professional help. Nothing you enter in a conversation is saved by this app. Your browser may still keep page history, and calls may appear in your phone's call log.
A conversation, not a treatment
the in-between. offers invitations for conversations about kink, play, intimacy and communication. It is not psychotherapy, counselling, couples therapy, medical care, crisis support or an emergency service. It does not diagnose or treat anything. Its operator also runs Transformation Therapy in Berlin; using this app does not create a therapeutic relationship.
Play and intimacy can bring pleasure, vulnerability, uncertainty and real, sometimes complex emotional responses. There is no right feeling or required outcome here. All genders, bodies, sexualities and relationship structures are welcome. You remain responsible for your choices and for attending to consent and safety; the app cannot assess either. Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn or changed. No one owes an explanation, disclosure, agreement or continuation.
These prompts do not replace skilled assistance, medical care or urgent support. If someone feels afraid, coerced, hurt, disoriented or unable to freely choose, stop the activity and attend to safety rather than following phone prompts. You do not need to work through this with the person involved. In immediate danger, call local emergency services; in Germany, call 112. Elsewhere, use the emergency number for your location.